Sigh.
So here's the thing: There are two sweet, super-nice guys revolving in Dahlia's world who are absolutely perfect ... on paper.
They are employed, intelligent, funny, personable, interesting and (possibly) interested, but that's it. Missing are the sparks, the light head, the weak knees, the Oh-my-God-look-at-that-man dumbfoundedness.
Is that a bad thing? Is it really that horrible if it is? Mom would love them to pieces. I probably could too if I had to for some arranged-marriage or family event thing. But that's about it. I'm big on the weak knees. Otherwise, we're just -- gasp! -- friends.
Question: Is perfect on paper enough? Can you work up to want? Should you have to? What say you?
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May I just through out a "hell yes" to this? This very topic has been percolating in my head but you beat me to it -- and much more articulately.
ReplyDeleteThis seems to be an all too familiar problem. Why does the spark (or as Ms Carrie Bradshaw will tell you in a few seasons: the zaa-zaa-zou) always seem to come from the boys that we have absolutely no business being with? Boys with whom we have nothing in common, who are nothing but trouble, and who will quite likely treat us badly.
But for you, I will direct you to two very helpful choice on-screen tidbits (for it happens in a script, it must be true:
1) The end of Bridget (ha!) Jones' Diary, when our heroine finally kisses Mr. Darcy: "Wait a minute. Nice boys don't kiss like that." "Oh, yes they fucking do."
2) Friends: Monica suffers from the very same situation. Pete (Jon Favreau) is perfect on paper but there's no SPARK ... until she finally kisses him, and her knees go weak.
So you never know until you know. You give it a whirl. It's Napoleon's Plan: First we show up, then we see what happens.